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PICKING THE UNCELEBRATED FOR THE CELEBRANT



A dark-skinned young man, father of two and a baker. That was my first attraction, there has to be more. I delved in a little more and found out that there was indeed more. 

He had taken to baking and cake designing better than a woman would. The African Patriarchy system would label it 'the woman's job' but to him, it was 'his' job. It was the gold mine that fed his wife and children. 

He asked the question that I always expect when I am interviewing someone for the #TheNextBigThing. "Why are you doing this."

Over time, I have realised that 80% of world failures are not the ones that folded their hands and decided not to do anything rather it was those who were on the process of climbing mountains, slipped, sprawled on the cold concrete and never got to see anyone beckoning on them to get up. People need more encouragement that you can ever imagine to see past who they are, where they are to get to where they should be. 

Whether you are a company leader, a parent, a mentor, or someone that others look up to for any reason, your words hold immense power. That’s why it’s critical that your words build others up, not tear them down. They must be encouraging.

“Great job!”
“Well done!”
“Way to go!”
"I believe in you !"

Give these words out like freebies. They are powerful and effective. 

#TheNextBigThing was an initiative coined from the pressing need to reach out to these people. The world is a Karaoke Bar and everyone is busy providing prerecorded accompaniment to popular and overly celebrated songs. We have spent more time congratulating people who have succeeded than people who have not. 

I am one restless spirit and can't dwell in a spot for so long. Perhaps, its time to listen to new songs or hear new voices.  Give someone the encouragement they need today even if its a tip of your finger. 

Let them say "Because of you I didn't give up." 





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  1. Well Done sis. Here's a pat on the back for being intentional about encouraging and celebrating people who shine as lights in their 'little' corners.

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