One of the activities that make my Sundays beautiful is spending time with the kids in my church. I would teach and listen to them as they ask the weirdest questions.
A fortnight ago, a little girl with bulgy yet innocent eyes walked up to me. She tugged at my dress. Looking down I flashed a smile at her, "Any problems?"
She nodded. "Ma, I wanted to ask if candles burn adults when they put their finger through it?" She said in her sweet babyish voice.
I found the question amusing but explained that we all feel pain irrespective of if we are older or younger. She showed me a blister on her finger which she had gotten when she had tried holding the wick of a candle. "Sorry," I said to pacify her and warned her not to try it again, explaining further that it could injure her more.
It appeared that I satisfied her. She grinned and scampered away. I reminisced how I also played with lighted candles as a kid.
Just as everyone feels pain when burnt by fire, so do we all have fears. Sometimes, it's quite easy for friends to brush me aside when talks about fears spring up. Their reasons are that I appear to look confident, have everything together and love to take risks.
This is quite laughable because there is no human who doesn't have fear. I recall my older cousin asking me what my fears were. At the time I was a happy-go-lucky teenager, so nothing actually popped up in my mind. However, as years and experience have been added to my life, I have figured out that my biggest fears lie in not being able to be there for the people I love and living my life without a legacy. Every day, there is a bell ringing in mind saying, "Ifeatu, you need to live the world better than you met it."
It practically keeps me awake most nights and thinking on my next line of action. You can call it a healthy fear.
Lately, I had joked with a friend of mine that healthy fear makes you sleepless and haunts you like a ghost. It actually prompts you to jump into action. It turns you into some kind of fire brigade who is willing at all time to do the needful.
When you have healthy fears, sometimes they transcend into things you are passionate about and in the long run becomes a driving force to get you to your envisioned destination.
Hey, so I just leaked a Black op secret. This makes us friends now, tell me about your fears in the comment section.
P.S: Decisions we make today will determine the situations of our generation and the next to come. This calls to mind the need to be intentional, even as #NigeriaDecides on Saturday.