Chukwuebuka had been my friend for a long time. I had come visiting and he had just bought a new Play Station 4 set way back then. We sat and discussed about the Nigerian school system to politics, to social trends and ofcourse literature.
He had been waiting for 'the boys' so he could 'trash them' in a game.
"I would like to play," he gave me the 'girls-don't-play-games kind of smile but I insisted.
Five minutes into the game, he had a knowing smile on his face as he stared at me to the gamepads and back to the screen. One thing was certain, it was not the first time I 'd touch a gamepad. Growing up with my male cousins groomed me for that.
Life itself is a game and realising this in good time will help you pull through it with ease. Life is designed just like games just like your favourite Candy Crush to Grand Theft Auto, Super Mario or even Temple Run. It teaches you to scale hurdles and unlock higher realms of operation. Games school on how to solve problems in a fun way.
However, the moment, you tell someone I have a problem. They give you the puppy glance and expect hell to be let loose. There is no such thing as a Problem. What people actually have are challenges.
The problem about problems is the tag name 'Problem.'
I can't say that I am blind to the fact there is an existence of unemployment, hunger, poverty, crime, income inequality, poor productivity, religious bigotry or corruption. One thing that is certain is that if there is a Challenge, then its solution is lurking behind.
Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don't have any problems, you don't get any seeds.
Norman Vincent Peale
When faced with
What is the root of this problem? There will be an 'Aha' moment when you get the root-cause but you need to be careful not to get boxed into the time-wasting attitude of playing the 'blame game.'
Accept responsibility for the problem and don't get your self beat up if you are at fault. The 'Blame Game has never handed any of its players that I know a trophy.
Your brain and mind is the most powerful tool in the world. Devise a solution and strategize towards how to get it right. Set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely) goals to solve problems.
If it becomes overwhelming getting around it. Ask people who will be willing to help you and be willing to walk with them through the process.
A friend once said to me, " Ifeatu help is everywhere, Open your heart and find it." It has been a lifelong advice that has helped till date. Even among a legion of demons, there will still be a lenient one. Don't you think so?
It's about time to turn that challenge into a story of change.
Have faith in yourself and in God. Heaven helps those who help themselves, remember?
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